Feeling Sad? It’s OK.
Why do we make feeling sad into something wrong? It’s not fun, that’s for sure. Who wants to be sad, after all? Definitely not me! I have things to do, places to go, and none of it involves being sad. But, the feeling of sadness is part of life and it is OK to experience it. To feel is to be human, after all.
Because of how we are programmed, however, many of us look at this emotion as dark – something that slows us down; an unproductive place to be. Not to mention, there is a significant stigma associated with being sad; it is often instantly interpreted as meaning you have a mental health issue – a diagnosis that is often made with little or no understanding of the context. If you do suffer from anxiety, depression or other challenges, it’s still OK to be sad. There is absolutely no need to apologise or feel ashamed
Bizarrely, anger is now seen as much more acceptable. The problem with this is that it is easy to step into that emotion instead, in order to cover up the emotion of sadness. I believe one of the reasons so many people are depressed is because we, as a society, have made feeling sad something wrong.
So what do most of us do with the emotion of sadness? Most of us stuff it, shove it, hide it, put it under a pillow. Or we numb it by distracting ourselves, which can make things worse and prolong our healing.
What if feeling sad was a way to freedom by processing it healthily? Conceivably, if we stopped making it wrong, we would be less depressed and even happier. Maybe, in fact, you NEED to be sad so that you can be happier…
What!!!??? Did you tell me to be sad so I can be happy? Absolutely! It might sound counter-intuitive, but bottling up your emotions will catch up with you if you don’t deal with them now. We don’t have to suppress this emotion – process it so you can come out of it. You have a beautiful life to live!
Sure, you can be happy with several different things – buy you just can’t reasonably expect to be 100% happy %100 of the time – that would drive you to madness. However, by not leaning into what emotion is calling for your attention to heal, happiness will not have a chance to become a constant companion.
Remember, just because you’re not feeling at peace with yourself, it doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you. There is a good chance you haven’t given yourself space to process your emotions. We all do this. It’s called being human. Be gentle with yourself. You are doing great! No judgment.
It’s never too late to start a journey to becoming freer. I know someone in their late 80’s who has healed their emotional wounds recently. Each time we heal something within us, we become freer, more connected, and experience bliss more often. While the healing journey may not happen overnight, I’ve discovered it’s a road that is worth travelling to get to a beautiful destination.
Wishing you a day of love and bliss!
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This post was originally published here on the Astonishing Tales digital Magazine.